Sexperts Answer Questions on Sex in Relationships
New to Sex Toys
"I have convinced my wife to buy a dildo or vibrator. She can be shy, and only climaxes through masturbation. I hope to use the toy to improve vaginal intercourse, as I come quickly and think she may enjoy sex more if we use a toy to prolong it. Where should I start?" Ann Whidden answers
Desire Differences
"I want more sex and my boyfriend wants more cuddling; I like porn and sex toys, but he says these are impersonal and turn him off. How do we become a more normal male-female couple?" Dr. Klein answers
Husband Masturbates Too Much
"My husband masturbates a lot, but we only have sex once a month if I'm lucky. I get turned on when he masturbates and this makes it even more frustrating that he doesn't want to have sex. Why does he prefer himself to me?" Dr. Klein answers
Not Attracted to Mate
"I love my girlfriend, but lately, I’m not so interested in sex with her. I still think about other women, but thinking about sex with my girlfriend doesn’t do it for me like it used to. Now she’s demanding to know what’s wrong. What’s causing this, and what should I do?" Dr. Klein answers
Wife Not Interested in Sex
"My wife says she is not interested in SEX and could never have it again and be happy...OMG this sucks!" Dr. Kat answers
Threesome in a Committed Relationship
"I am in a committed monogamous relationship with my boyfriend and we are very happy in all respects. The issue right now is that he has mentioned several times that he would love it if we had a threesome some time with another woman, and would like me to bring a lesbian or bi-curious woman home one day. I am not against this on face, but am worried about what it could do to our relationship. Any advice? " Dr. Klein answers
Sexually Unsatisfied with Boyfriend
"When my boyfriend and I have sex, he has his orgasm then either gets up to go to the bathroom or rolls over to have a cigarette. No matter what, he loses his erection, and leaves me sexually unsatisfied. I've tried talking to him about it but he doesn't really say much. What can I do?" Dr. Klein answers
Secret Sexual Affair
"I’m in a happy marriage of fifteen years and couldn’t love my husband more. However, I have been having a secret affair for the past year with another man... " Dr. Kat answers
Routine Sex
"Now that we have our own home, he always wants to have sex in the bedroom. I've tried "attacking" him in the kitchen and the den, but he always says, "Let's go up to the bedroom." I'm getting bored. How can I help change this routine?" Dr. Klein answers
Grooming for Sex
"I love my boyfriend, but he doesn't always brush his teeth or clean up before bedtime, and then he wants to be passionate. It's starting to affect my enjoyment of sex. How can I indirectly get him to realize I'd prefer his kisses sweet? I'd hate for him to think I'm a nag." Dr. Klein answers
No Sexual Chemistry
"I’m in a new relationship and things are absolutely great between my boyfriend and me. We’re really compatible in all areas of our life except sex. There just seems to be no sexual chemistry between us. It takes either one of us forever to initiate and once we do we seem to fumble a lot. It ends up being awkward to the point that we end up not wanting to even have sex. I am sexually attracted to him and believe he is to me but I can see us staying together and just dealing with the fact that good sex just won’t be apart of our relationship. Do we have any options? " Dr. Kat Answers
Long Distance Sex
"My husband and I are newly married and he was recently sent to the Middle East with a deployment by the Armed Forces. How can we keep the home-fires burning sexually while he’s away? " Dr. Kat answers
Spice Up Sex Life
"I've been married for six months. I love sex, and I love to experiment (nothing outrageous, just unexpected places like the kitchen floor). My husband is always tired, and we've gone from having sex four times a week to just one. And when we do have sex, I know exactly what to expect: a quick nipple job then on to the main event. How can I spice up our sex life and get him interested, too? " Dr. Klein answers
Lack of Foreplay
"My boyfriend's not really into foreplay. How can I get him to make me happy?" Dr. Klein answers
No Orgasm During Intercourse
"I can't have an orgasm during intercourse. I have no idea what to do. My husband thinks I'm not attracted to him, but that's not the case." Dr. Klein answers
Sexual Experimentation
"I've been in my current relationship for three months and feel like my boyfriend is dropping hints about experimenting with SM. This scares me..." Dr.Klein answers
Swinging
"My wife and I have been involved in the "swinger" scene for some time now. Recently I've sensed she has had more than a fleeting attraction to one of the other husbands. How can I address this with her without her feeling like I don't trust her?" Dr. Kat answers
Cross-dressing
"I came home unexpectedly one afternoon and found my boyfriend masturbating -- wearing my camisole and thigh-highs -- He thinks it's fantastic and I don't know what to do. Help!" Dr. Klein answers
Sleep Sex
"I have a question about my boyfriend. We have sex often -- and good sex. But what I can't figure out about him is that he jerks off while he's sleeping. He doesn't cum. He doesn't realize he is even doing it. Sometimes I go to another room because he does it throughout the night and keeps me up. What is your feedback on why and how to possibly resolve this problem?" Dr. Kat answer
Partner is Anti-Lube
"I want to use lube but my husband doesn't believe in it. Getting wet never used to be a problem but now in my early forties I don't seem to lubricate as much. I've tried to bring it up but my husband thinks I should be able to get wet on my own. I want to have sex but it's so painful now. Help!" Dr. Kat answers
Online Attraction
"We have not kissed or done anything yet and it has been three months since I have known him. I miss him when he does not call, and I love to talk with him over the phone; we have a lot in common but when it comes to in person -- oh boy, I don't want anything to do with him. What should I do?" Dr. Kat answers
