How to Seduce a Woman

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Women want to feel appreciated, safe and joyous in the sex act. All three are important when seducing a women. Here are more tips to get her in the right 'head-space' for sex.

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A helpful guide from on the subtle art of seducing the fairer sex.

How To Seduce a Woman

How to Seduce a Woman

Women want to feel appreciated, safe and joyous in the sex act. All three are important when seducing a women. Here are more tips to get her in the right 'head-space' for sex.

Use Your Words

Words are the first stop to reaching a woman's clitoris. Language means connection, which helps to establish that this lover is safe and appreciative of who she is.  You don't have to recite poetry, but you will have to have some sort of conversation.

Talking about her interests and dreams will make you look like the most interesting person in the world!

Be Bold, Not Pushy

Let her know you are interested, but don't put her on the spot. She needs to know that you are attracted to her, but too much 'forward' energy can make her feel pressured. One of the biggest turn-offs for a woman is feeling that sex is expected of her.

Stimulate Her Mind First

When a woman's brain is stimulated her clitoris is not far behind. Women love to use their brains in sex. Incorporating a sexual scenario/fantasy into your love life can open up many different possiblities into a long-term relationship or with a new parter.

Draw it out

Sexual arousal can arrive almost instantaneously for some women. But most will not act on that arousal until they know they are emotionally and physically safe. Therefore, take your time and enjoy the process.

Make Her Wait. Set it up for her to come to you

Women have sex thrust into their faces at many more occasions than men. They are accustomed to thwarting advances. While you must never make her feel rejected, you can fuel her desire by letting her wait for sex a little. Anticipation is one of the most successful aphrodisiacs.

More Seduction Tips:

1. Appreciate What She Does for You
A woman wants to feel like that you acknowledge what she does and that you appreciate it.

2. Give Her Gifts:
>Show her that you are thinking of her. The gift does NOT have to be expensive, but it does have to be a gift SHE wants, not the gift you think she should have. Make a little mental note whenever she says she likes something.

3. Use Humor that Connects:
Make playful references to events or experiences that you have in common. Sexist jokes are a big no no. They will only serve to build up her walls, not to take them down.

4. Pay Attention to the Details:
Knowing a man has noticed you long enough to be aware of the small things is a sign to a woman that he may be a good lover. If he knows what color her eyes are, he may also quickly pick up on how a certain flick of your tongue makes her come.

5. Use Your Imagination:
Think out of the box -- literally.

6. Be a Hero -- Be Gallant:
Try to find some small way you can make her life easier. If you can take her mind off the practical details of life she can be freed up to think of the pleasures of life. Even as small a thing as giving her your coat on a cold day helps to take one worry off her mind.

7. Do Your Research:
Read erotica or romance novels to discover the techniques of the successful seducers.

8. Clean Up:
If you want to bring a woman home to your place for sex, she knows it. She will sum up just how important she is to you by looking around your apartment and at your grooming habits. Crumpled sheets, sour towels or unkempt toenails will literally mean, "you are not that important to me" to many women.

9. Compliment Her, don't Flattter Her:
The difference is crucial.  A compliment is more specific (e.g. "your hair is so shiny"), whereas flattery is more general and ambiguous (e.g. "you are pretty").  People tend  not to believe flattery -- even interpreting it as shallow, or dismissing it altogether.

Choose something specific you like about her and then say it. It does not have to be fancy. Don't lie or make something up. If she senses it is just flattery she will peg you as just a man who wants to get her into bed.

10. Give her Notice:
Women may need a little time to prepare emotionally or physically for sex. Send her flowers, a sexy email or use your imagination in some other way to prepare her for your intentions. That will give her time to either prepare herself, or you.