How to Have An Orgasm

Practical solutions to reach orgasm

Dr. Petra Zebroff

Help with Pre-Orgasmia
(also, inappropriately, called anorgasmia)

Is orgasm just out of your reach? Many women feel aroused, enjoy their bodies and feel hot and sexy but can't quite get over that hump to orgasm. This experience is much more common than most of us think. It is reported that 24 -37% of women in the US said they experienced a lack of orgasm. 40% of women report not having regular orgasm with masturbation. And one third of women have difficulty having an orgasm regularly with a partner.

Even though women tend not to be as orgasm-mono-focused as men, and instead enjoy the experience of sex with all of the senses it arouses, orgasm is a tremendous experience all human beings are capable. Here are some tips!

Easy Orgasm Solutions

1. Start by yourself.
Many women make the inaccurate assumption that orgasm will occur more easily with a partner. It doesn't! While sometimes a partner will boost your arousal by his/her mere presence, the general rule is that you will be able to express a more natural sexual self when you are alone.
Read: Getting Off

2. Lose the distractions.
Find yourself a nice space where you know you will not be disturbed for at least 30 minutes.

3. Focus on the clitoris.
Most orgasm originate in the clitoris. Women rarely orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. All of the delicious nerve endings live in the clitoris. Focus there first, then include the vagina.
Try: Advanced Clit Pump

4. Learn from other women's experiences.
Look to the orgasm pros. Betty Dodson, the queen of masturbation, has put out spectacular books to bring all types of women through to orgasm with fun warmth and direction.
Try: Sex for One

5. Speed up the process with a vibrator.

If you have to choose one vibrator of all -- choose a clitoral vibrator. It is the direct route to orgasm. Because of the intense stimulation of the vibrator, the vibrator can send you into orgasm instantaneously. Out of all of the vibrators we have encountered, we recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand for orgasm issues. The Hitachi is a clitoral vibrator supreme.

• Clitoral Vibrators have a straight line to an orgasm.
  Try: Hitachi Magic Wand
• Thrusting Vibrators offer an extra kick to engage all nerve endings in the vagina and g-spot.
  Try: A Deep Thrusting Dildo
• Wearable Vibrators let your hands roam free to do other things while you lie back and enjoy your clitoral sensations.
  Try: Venus Penis
• Rabbit Vibrators give you the option of clitoral and vaginal (g-spot) stimulation all in one vibrator.
  Try: The Waterproof Rabbit Vibrator

6. Boost your arousal first!

Make sure you are nice and aroused. High arousal will make your orgasm much easier ... and faster. Fantasize, watch porn, read erotica or whatever works to get you going before you even make a move toward the orgasm. One quick and easy way is to use a clitoral stimulating creams or warming lubes to increase the heat.

Try: KY Intense

7. Watch others have sex. We are hard-wired to get aroused when we watch others having explicit sex. Even if you don't think you are aroused when you see two people bonking on the late night porno on tv, your body prepares for sex.

Orgasm Tools -- Recommended Vibrators

After 12 years of being a sexologist and an owner of sex toy store I have found the following sex toys to be the most reliable in bringing women to orgasm.

1. Hitachi Magic Wand

The most famous of all of the 'orgasm makers', the Hitachi Magic Wand has been working its magic since the 80's. It is the wide, throbbing head that works on the clitoris in a natural rhythm to bring the most stubborn of women off to orgasmic bliss.

2. Womolia Vibrator

The Womolia combines clitoral stimulation with vaginal stimulation. This vibrator was made by women for women and not only vibrates, but heats up for extra comfort.

3. Rabbit Habit

Rabbit vibrators give amazing stimulation—clitoral, g-spot and vaginal all at once.